Series 14: "The List" #3 - Thirty Crazy Things I Would Love To Do

This is the 14th series of the guessing game I posted in twitter and facebook. For a backgrounder, please refer to my post entitled "Series 1: The List #3 - Thirty Crazy Things I Would Love To Do" dated 1/29/2012.

#15 Crazy Thing I Would Love To Do

“FALL IN LOVE DEEPLY --- HELPLESSLY AND UNCONDITIONALLY”

I was then in my 5th year college… with no boyfriend since birth! All my friends had boy/girl friends. During that time, I think I am ready to try this new world for me! I wished if I fall, I would fall completely. And I promised myself that I would strive hard to make our relationship lasting and forever. My attitude was that “no matter what… whatever it takes”! I love him and he loves me period! At the same time, I  would like also to experience that wonderful feeling of complete submission, since I am always independent and domineering. This is what I learned from all the love novels that I had read.

However, my friends warned me that there is no such utopian state. Though such state is perfect but most of the time, it is impractical. Thus, as a result I might just be disappointed. This led to mind boggling issues to ponder:” Is there such a thing falling in love deeply… helplessly and unconditionally?; and “Would the situation warrant this?. Given this scenario, we had an argument that until now has not been resolved. I called this argument as “The Power Struggle Between the Mind and Heart”. I listed hereunder some of the important points for each argument.

“Mind over Heart”

• We have the power to control our emotions.
• We were created with the head above the heart.  
• The mind can recognize what our heart desires, and it will react with sense and logic.  In the broad end of the spectrum, our heart will usually respond against everything that makes sense, and make illogical decision. And this decision will often cause more trouble than it is worth.

“Heart over Mind”

• We have the power to control our thoughts.
• Happiness comes within our heart.
• Our mind is most sensible when it comes to solving logical issues, but we cannot fully trust it when it comes to real life issues. We always need the heart to fully comprehend real life issues and judge according to our feelings. Sometimes, we need to make illogical decisions to attain a logical situation.

This argument is really confusing. It has been going around for centuries now. And in such a confusing situation, why don’t we ask also our other organs, i.e. kidneys, liver, eyes, ears, nose, etc. for their opinions. 

As for me, it is still best to use both of them when it comes to decision-making and it really depends on the situation. When matters concerning love, I strongly believe that it is perfect when there is a meeting between the mind and the heart. 

Did I resolve anything? I realized that I am still in utopian state. But as we grow, we become wiser and more concern of our happiness. The more important thing now is that we are happy in everything we do. And what is happiness? According to Gandhi, “happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”.

So which one:  “heart over mind” or “mind over heart”? --- I still don’t know and I have no idea!

THE GUESSES

There are 111 guesses made as of March 26, 2012. A complete list of the guesses posted in my Facebook Timeline and DSampyan Blog is accessible by following this link Guesses as of March 26, 2012.
I don't have to go to Paris to fall in love. I want to fall in love anywhere, then go to Paris to celebrate our togetherness. Joyce Sy, we are both crazy when it comes to love!

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